We perceive the world through our senses. These are mainly see, hear and feel. We can learn to change these in order to feel better or to set goals. As an example, let’s say that you want to be better at your work. Make a postage stamp size picture of that. For more effect make […]
Author: Stan Dokmanus
Mom’s Epiphany and Change
Scene: Mom, tired now, sat to relax with her sidekick on a long, green bench. “Courtesy of The Chamber of Commerce” it said. They talked about how trauma can have long lasting effects on a person. Mom, deep in thought about how previous events and decisions have affected her life, said that she had an […]
Mom’s Subjective Experience and Imagery.
Mother talked excitedly with her sidekick about how she was frozen in the memory of the fire. She tried to move but found she was stuck in a state of panic on her Maslow timeline. Focused now, …the sidekick mentioned to Mom that “It’s clear, I can see you have a problem as you tell […]
Mother could benefit from C.E.E.
What is C.C.E. you might be asking. It’s Corrective Emotional Experience. Mom, just as any of us who have had any situation that our operating system has coded as traumatic will benefit by revisiting, reprocessing and re-imprinting that experience. That is the basic premise of EMI, Brief Eye Movement Therapy and EMDR. Let’s do an […]
REVISIT AND REFRAME THE TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCE.
Addiction and SUD (Substance Use Disorder) often are tied to past life changing experiences. Any type of abuse, witnessing any type of abuse or ‘trauma inducing’ behavior can haunt a person for a lifetime. When considering how this happens, maybe you weren’t beaten yourself but you witnessed someone else get beaten. That could do it. […]
Is Addiction a Disease?
“Non-12 Step Addiction Treatment Philosophy” Palisades of Malubu. Not with me! I believe in 12-Step Recovery. If you wanna it will work. Some professionals and lay people say addiction is a disease. Some say No, it’s a choice. Just like the Non-12 Step idea just above. Some say yes, some say no. I know a […]
A MOTHER’S JOURNEY, cont’d
Four days ago, we left our Mother and her sidekick stranded as they were about to maybe discuss why the fire came to mind on her “timeline floatback”; described in the prior post, May 26. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs formed the basis of the timeline in a linear format. When Ma reached the Sense of […]
A MOTHER’S JOURNEY, cont’d
The road to Recovery and Transcendence can be a long and winding. The hilly, sometimes slippery places, twist and turn with the terrain, demonstrating that we must do this on the road’s terms. Rules of the Road. When we choose the road, we must follow its edicts and accept the consequences of that choice. When […]
A Mother’s Journey, “The Road to Recovery.”
Cont’d from previous posts. Scene: “A winter’s day. In a deep and dark December”[1], a woman, a wanderer, walks alone. Searching for truth. Hers. Mother a Wanderer (she asks a stranger who appeared from nowhere): “Do you know the way to “Recovered?” Stranger: “Yes! I do.” Pointing, she says “you take this narrow, cobbled, less […]
A Mother’s Experience
How are a mother’s experiences different from yours as the reader? If you are a mother you may want to add to this conversation. If you are a male I’d like to hear your responses. What have our parents really gone through? Trauma. While we are exposed to similar events out there, in our environments, […]