Sometimes it’s easy to be really hard on ourselves and heap on the blame – for everything. That is an example of irrational thinking and hurtful, negative self-talk. We and therapists need to listen to our Meta Model clues or violations. The Meta Model will be explained more later. Due to a faulty belief/values system […]
Month: November 2016
CHANGING BEHAVIOR. YOU ARE NOT BROKEN.
You, I and people in general sometimes seem overwhelmed or like we have met our end. There is an ebb and flow to life. It has its ups and downs. But we sometimes irrationally take it to mean the end, or failure. Nobody is 100% successful at 100% of what they do 100% of the […]
HELP WITH THE PAIN OF ADDICTION. MORE AND BETTER CHOICES OF FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND BEHAVIOR
This is about Recovery Theme Number Four. Why people use has been covered previously. As with all behavior we humans tend to move away from pain and toward pleasure. That’s why we use alcohol and other drugs. We want to feel different (away) from how we feel to how we expect (toward) to feel. We […]
RECOVERY TOOLS AND LANGUAGE. THEMES ONE, TWO AND THREE.
Just reading over this information is not good enough. It’s important that you understand the concepts. Now is the time to go back over these three ideas. In a prior post you were introduced to the Cognitive Behavior Map. I mentioned before that the map should be mastered as well. Go back and study that […]
ALCOHOL AND DRUG ABUSE BELIEFS.THE REALITY IS…
There is only perception. People respond to their own map of reality and not reality itself. We arrive at the here and now with all that has been imprinted and learned in our lives. So, what’s been imprinted? Fair question. The answer is all of our beliefs, values and attitudes about how it ‘really’ is. […]
RECOVERY FROM ALCOHOL , ADDICTION: COMMUNICATION, FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS
The meaning or quality of the communication is the response that you get. Communication is about getting the intended response from the listener. Is the recovery message clear? This is Recovery Theme number two. Can the effectiveness of our communication with others affect our feelings and emotions. Think of a time in your experience when […]
STRENGTHS BASED RECOVERY THEMES HELP YOU
An explanation of the relevance of the Recovery Themes could be useful at this point. It is very empowering for the clients to realize just how much control they have over their feelings and emotions. Recovery Theme 1 is an example of how effective these themes can be for ourselves and our clients. As can […]