A MOTHER’S JOURNEY, cont’d

The road to Recovery and Transcendence can be a long and winding. The hilly, sometimes slippery places, twist and turn with the terrain, demonstrating that we must do this on the road’s terms.

Rules of the Road.

When we choose the road, we must follow its edicts and accept the consequences of that choice.

When we get to a fork in the road, the more difficult choice is probably the correct one.

Beliefs and Strengths.

It’s important to be ever vigilant and honest about what got us here in the first place. Our beliefs, thoughts and feelings, our family, our environment and social learning all play a part. They form our maps of reality.

Even the VAK language we use, our self-talk, each plays a role. These are strengths and resources. There is a Language of Recovery.[1]

This is important to know for both the explorer and the guide. Both subjectivity and objectivity matter.

The subjective experience of the explorer (or client) must be respected. The same rules apply here as do the Rules of Haiku. The objective witness or guide must respect the other’s subjectivity, meeting them where they are at on the journey.

“Froze subjective nouns

Ignore kind transitive verbs

Transcendence denied.”

Counselors, in the role of linguists could keep in mind the 12 verbal clues[2] or expressions that disclose the roadblocks that keep the explorer stuck. Have you ever been stuck in mud, snow or ruts?

Nominalizations can be huge clues about where the explorer is stuck. Substituting action verbs can create the tow truck motion in the mind of the traveler. Ah! Transcendence.


[1] Drug Court Treatment: The Verdict, Chapter 10, p.95

[2] Criminal Justice and Addictions Counseling, NAADC Approved Provider #192679, CEUs, p.25